Think-Off from Thousands of Miles Away

I've come to a place of gratitude over my cross country "non-relationship relationship." The things we've enjoyed together, all thousands of miles apart, have been amazing. It's a whole different sex life – the one I should be having.

I've been so terribly disappointed with the sex life in my marriage – it's been so one-dimensional and lacking in real energy. I blamed myself because, well, that's what the "experts" would say is the problem. Despite the fact that I had a lot of fantastic sex with other women (and my wife, for that matter) even before gaining all this new grounding and confidence and SKILLS, I was seeing myself as a failure. I became obsessed with her exes, with her past sex life, and wondered what I was "doing wrong."

Over time, and with the help of some killer coaching and my own decision to let go, I reconnected with the incredible lover in me and began having an amazing sex life – that's the good news. The not so good news – most of that elevation in my sex life was on my own. Yes, the marital sex was better, and lately there have been some breakthroughs, but still frustratingly "pretty good," and I've been used to "incredible." And all I wanted was to have that with the woman I married!

So I start corresponding with an old friend. We'd never had sex, though we almost did, once. She's married, and on the other side of the country. Our conversations became very sexual and she responded to EVERYTHING. I felt that sexy man inside coming alive in a way it never had – she was responding just to my voice, or my texts, or my emails, and that's all we ever had.

I talked her through phone sex, the first time she had an orgasm over the phone. Soon I was giving her multiple orgasms while taking a ten-minute break at work. Eventually we started having phone sex together, which was even more powerful – and she was having the biggest orgasms ever on HER break, with me, just on the phone.

She's crazy about the sound of my voice. We share fantasies, I can go deep into my erotic writing (which I love). I've even sent her videos of me masturbating, which drive her crazy. And I love the way I look, too. Oh, that feeling of really feeling good about myself as a lover, of being fully desired and appreciated, of fully satisfying a woman. All with NO PHYSICAL CONTACT together!

Now she's getting to the point where she can climax just from thinking about me – without me even talking to her. We've never touched, this is all over the phone and now she's not even touching herself. I'm finally getting to live out the stories I hear from David Shade about "Think Off." And most importantly, I've reconnected with my true self, letting go of that self-doubt and powerfully stepping into the erotic man I am in every way.

I feel confident, I feel a surge of sexual energy, and I feel a deep sense of gratitude for fully connecting with this powerful man, for seeing the truth – that I am a rock star, and getting past the crushing self-doubt that's permeated my marriage. This isn't how I expected things to be going, or the "right way" I had in my mind, but this is what I've needed, and a key step in my journey to being the erotic rock star I desire, and deserve, to be.