Sexual Grounding - Using the Sedona Method and Natural Grounding to Connect With My True Sexual Nature

I decided to start tackling a "big" issue today - sex. The whole thing, from attraction, to feelings about having sex and my own attitudes toward sex and sexuality.

I started by picturing myself seeing a beautiful woman and feeling attraction. I focused on this feeling until another feeling popped up (resistance/ blockages), in this case anxiety.

Focusing on the feeling of anxiety, I told myself that my attraction is natural and healthy, but the anxiety is artificial and based on a belief that isn't real. Then I released the anxiety.

I focused on the attraction again, and this time shame and guilt popped up. I again reminded myself that shame and guilt are impositions I've accepted from society and not my real feelings. I then released the guilt.

At this point, I went to the break room where I encountered some attractive women and allowed myself to feel attraction, which was quickly supplanted by self-consciousness. This is where things get difficult, because this is PRIDE operating, and pride is very tough to remove. Worrying about what others think of me, wondering what she thinks of me, trying to look good, thinking about how cool I'd be if she felt attraction for me, all these things are pride, they're putting my ego ahead of attraction. Pride gets in the way of attraction and the enjoyment of the moment.

So I go back to the office and try a few reframes. I ask myself "is attraction a choice?" No. "So, if attraction isn't a choice, is my attraction for her a reflection of the kind of man I am?" No, attraction is natural and enjoyable. If anything, it makes me a better man. "And is attraction something unique only to me or is it universal to mankind?" It's universal. Billions of people making babies all over the world, it's not unique. "So then, her attraction for me would not be a reflection in any way on me as a unique individual?" No, attraction isn't a choice, it's universal, so attraction doesn't affect my SELF. "So what I'm worrying about, worrying about what she thinks of me, whether she's attracted to me, is that coming from natural attraction?" No. "Is it out there in the real world, is there a 'what does she think of me' that I can touch, see or taste?" No. "So what is it?" It's something created in my mind. "And is it real?" No. "How about attraction, is that real?" Yes. "So can you see how worrying about what she thinks of me, which is not real, is interfering with something that is real?" Yes. "Are you ready to let go of that which is false and unpleasant and accept what is real and enjoyable?" Yes.

And then I let go of the pride. Actually, I didn't.

So then I did some natural grounding, watching Showgirls on YouTube. Then I came back, with my new feeling, and tried again and this time I felt a release.

So I focused on attraction again and this time felt guilt. I released the guilt. I felt fear and released the fear (these were minor emotions after the pride). Then I felt peace.

So I did more natural grounding, focusing on this peaceful feeling of sexual attraction. I felt a release of emotion - laughter, some crying and that cool rush of energy flowing through my chakras. I felt a real sense of sexual groundedness.

So I went out for a bit, to put it into alignment and notice my feelings. I knew I wasn't "cured," this is a process. I noticed only when I was feeling grounded and just enjoying the attraction easily and naturally, and when I was feeling other unnatural emotions instead.

I was quite proud of myself. I walked around for about 10 minutes and was in state during about half the encounters. And it was cool. I knew I was too "in my head," because I was studying myself, but nonetheless, the reactions were impressive. A woman gave me a strong look from accross the street, another did a double-take, practically tripping over herself. I'd been used to women largely ignoring me around the building, everybody seems to walk with blinders on, but there was a lot of interaction.

I could feel the awesome energy flow when I was in state, and the awkwardness of being out of state, self-conscious, nervous, looking for reactions, etc. What made it really amazing for me was in those moments when I felt grounded and accepting of the attraction, my heart was open. I could feel sexual attraction and love simultaneously, without any attachment or need, just letting it be. So the place exists, it's just a matter now of expanding it into my life until it becomes my entire being.